Dear Baby Mama, :)

So, Ami has the day off for Mother’s Day and I thought I would tackle this whole blog thing. If you know me at all you know I don’t write letters or write in cards. This is something I know my wife wishes would be different from time to time. I would rather say something to someone and occasionally Ami will say, “Why didn’t you say that in a card?” The truth is, this is something I’ve admired about my father. My dad used to and may still write letters to my mom. He enjoys a good fountain pen and keeps up on what I consider to be beautiful penmanship. I believe this is for most, a lost art. If you are someone who writes to your loved one then I say, “Bravo, well done.” Perhaps I should stop being such a horses butt about it and step up to the plate more often. I will admit that loving Ami makes me want to do such things.

I have been thinking about our family, the past seven years, and wanted to reminisce and publicly thank my wife for the wonderful partner and mother she is. For those of you who may not know, I affectionately refer to my wife as “Lou.” This is a version of something her Dad started years ago and I like to think “Lou” is exclusively mine.

Lou and I were introduced through friends and talked on the phone for a week before we met. I did get to see a picture before we met and I remember asking if that was really her. When I was told it was I responded, “Hell yea I’ll meet her!” We were to go on a group date with friends. This wasn’t my style and I asked if I could call and talk to her first to break the ice. After talking for a week I couldn’t wait and asked if it would be okay if I drove to Tucson and meet her for the first time. Keep in mind that she doesn’t know what I look like yet. I told her we could meet for lunch somewhere and we could take it from there if she wanted. She offered to meet me at her school where she still teaches today and then lunch. I know this was just a way to check me out before she had to have lunch with someone she wasn’t attracted to. I can’t blame her. Now people, let me tell you that though I had seen a picture, when this vision of beauty stepped out of the car, the picture did no justice. I knew that God willing and if she’d have me, I was gonna marry this girl. Little did either of us know the whirlwind of events that would take place to bring us to today.

Brad Paisley is one of our favorite music artists. There are many of his songs that we enjoy and feel they were written for us. I wish I came up with some of the things he says in his songs but I have to give credit where it is due.

I have two songs Paisley sings that I go back to time and time again. Though they are classics, I am not referring to “Ticks” where he sings about kissing you way back in the sticks, walking you through a field of wild flowers, and then wanting to check you for ticks. I am also not referring to “I’m still a Guy” where he uses a deer as an example, which you see it as “Bamby” and I see it as antlers on the wall. I am talking about the songs “Then” and “She’s Everything.” Specifically I am talking about the lyrics in the first song where Paisley sings. “We’ll look back someday at this moment that we’re in and I’ll look at you and say …… and I thought I loved you then.”

Lou, I haven’t stopped staring since we first met. You have a beauty that can change the focus of a room. The great part is it’s only a small piece of the true beauty you hold inside. I thought I knew what I was looking for in a wife and mother to my children. I had no clue until the big man upstairs sent you my way. I remember dates on the “tailgate,” moving into our first home, and any disagreements quickly ended in one of us saying, “You want to make up yet?” The other would smile and say, “No.” to which the first would come back with, “How about now?” The second, “Yes.”

We realized Tucson was going to be home for us and a family so we made the big move and started our journey to parenthood. We thought we had a plan to become parents. We know now God saw it another way. Through the procedures, laughter, and tears we did not know what was about to happen. Society has given us many examples of people who were destined to be someone or do something. There is no doubt that we were destined to be the parents of triplets. From day one when we were told, for medical reasons, that we could not keep all three, you have been an unwavering ray of sunshine for me and our children. If your love for them could be bottled, the world would be a better place. I think back to these and many other little moments and I say to myself …… and I thought I loved you then. Lou, you are everything we’ve ever wanted and needed. Daily you show us how to live, laugh, and love. I wanted to say thank you for choosing us and I pray we get to experience all life has to offer us and our children.

Love, Your man

“Happy Mothers Day, 2011”

P.S. Ami is the one who who crudely 'titled' this post, not I, her loving husband. :) Just wanted you to know.